We All Need a Coach

My wife and I were enjoying breakfast at Postively 4th Street Cafe in Ocean City, NJ. We love this place and especially the lattes. Oh my, they are good! During our connecting time, we were searching for ways to improve our business and effectiveness as parents. I asked the question. "How can we become 10 Talent People in each area of our life?" This is a reference to a story that Jesus teaches in the Book of Matthew. I'll read it. 

Matthew 25:14-30 “For the kingdom of heaven is like a man traveling to a far country, who called his own servants and delivered his goods to them. And to one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one, to each according to his own ability; and immediately he went on a journey. Then he who had received the five talents went and traded with them, and made another five talents. And likewise he who had received two gained two more also. But he who had received one went and dug in the ground, and hid his lord’s money. After a long time the lord of those servants came and settled accounts with them. “So he who had received five talents came and brought five other talents, saying, ‘Lord, you delivered to me five talents; look, I have gained five more talents besides them.’ His lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.’  He also who had received two talents came and said, ‘Lord, you delivered to me two talents; look, I have gained two more talents besides them.’ His lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you have been faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.’  Then he who had received the one talent came and said, ‘Lord, I knew you to be a hard man, reaping where you have not sown, and gathering where you have not scattered seed. And I was afraid, and went and hid your talent in the ground. Look, there you have what is yours.’ “But his lord answered and said to him, ‘You wicked and lazy servant, you knew that I reap where I have not sown, and gather where I have not scattered seed. So you ought to have deposited my money with the bankers, and at my coming I would have received back my own with interest. So take the talent from him, and give it to him who has ten talents. ‘For to everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have abundance; but from him who does not have, even what he has will be taken away. And cast the unprofitable servant into the outer darkness. There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

We are Christians, so this has significant meaning to us. When I asked the question to my wife, "How do we become 10 Talent People", it was our desire to be the 5 talent servant who invests his five to make 10. We want to make 10 talents in every area of our life. From this question, multiple breakthroughs occurred. I'd like to share one of them with you as I believe it will help you a ton. In the Four Windows episode, I painted the image of a window with cross lattices that makes 4 individual panes of glass in each window. Each of the 4 panes represents something in our life.

• The First Window - These are the things that you know about you and others know about you. It represents basic knowledge and being content.
• The Second Window - These are the things that you know about you that others don't know about you. It represents personal growth and self-awareness.
• The Third Window - These are the things that you don't know about you that others do know about you. It represents mentorship, coaching, and high personal achievement.
• The Fourth Window - These are the things that you don't know about you, others don't know about you, and only God knows about you. It represents your potential!

Most people are in the first window only. They know what they know and don't want to grow. If I were to take a guess, I would say 2/3 of our population falls here. I also know that 83% of people don't set goals. Most of these non-goal-setters fall into the first and some in the second window. I would personally guess that 25% fall into the second window. They do want to get better. They are growth minded. They know their weaknesses and the areas needed to improve. They seek out questions and get answers to those questions through general and specific sources. This is a big difference as specific sources know your specific scenario and can give you better advice. A second window person only seeks to change those things that they know they need. Whether they implement them or not as a different story. They never ask any other questions outside of the ones they don't already know they need answers to. Did you hear that? They never ask any other questions outside of the ones they don't already know they need answers to! Less than 5% of all society are third window people.  They are the super achievers. Why? They always have second window questions, but they allow mentors and coaches they trust to dig. You see, these coaches see third window blind spots of those they are mentoring or coaching. Many times a coach will hear the questions from the second window. They may answer them or they may dig and find other questions that were never asked at all, then give answers to those questions. Answers from the third window are always better than the answers from the second. Why? Second window only answers the questions they knew they had. Third window questions and answers forces the person to stretch to a new level to be able to answer them.

Let's go back to the 10 Talent Person. The 1 talent servant was a first window person who only knew what he knew. His talent was taken away. The 2 talent servant was a second window person. He knew he needed to grow and figured out how to invest and create 2 more talents. The 5 talent servant was a third and fourth window servant, who probably had a mentor making him better and he had total trust in God. I asked Teresa this. "What if the 2 talent servant had a mentor? He could become a 5 talent servant and ultimately a 10 Talent Person." Teresa and I both realized that we BOTH need a coach or mentor in every area of our lives, so we can become 10 Talent People. This is why I hired Coach Josh for my cleaning business and joined the Total Life Freedom Mastermind Community as well as other mentors I have selected in my life. We only get one shot in this life. Don't limit yourself to what you already know.

Would you like to discuss any blind spots you may have? Make sure to check out the many free & paid resources available at the Smart Cleaning School website. Also, do you have questions for me? Book a free coaching call on my website!